Let’s Talk About “Biblical” Discipline

The Bible calls it discipline, sometimes chastening. Society calls it hitting, spanking, and by its legal term, corporal punishment.

The calls it , sometimes chastening. Society calls it hitting, spanking, and by its legal term, corporal punishment. As of Time Magazine’s 2014 tally, 43 countries have now declared child corporal punishment illegal. Worldwide, the debate goes on about the rightness of spanking one’s child.

Discipline is not about inflicting pain.

While biblical discipline may necessitate spanking, it is a temporary measure to instil discipline and learning. Proverbs 13:24 says, “He who spares his rod of discipline hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines diligently and punishes him early.” Proverbs 22:15 says, Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drive it far from him.

Spanking is needed when a child is too young to understand his wrongdoing  and when no length of explanation will cause him to understand or remember that his act is wrong. Remember the saying, “No pain; no gain? People learn more from painful experiences. Experiences and learning accompanied by have a more lasting impact and effect.

From the verses just quoted, we learn that discipline must be gentle. The goal is not to inflict but for the child to understand and refrain from his wrong behaviour. It goes without saying that as the child gets older, must always precede physical punishment. Once your child can be reasoned with, physical punishment may be suspended. Godly discipline will take fruit in due time and you may happily find your child at age 6 (or younger) easy to talk with about correct behaviour.

Biblical discipline is not about releasing anger.

Discipline is not hitting. Discipline is not verbal abuse. A parent should take no satisfaction from physical punishment and nagging or shaming  of a child. That is not loving; that is revenge. Biblical discipline is about what’s best for your child, not what would appease you. The focus is not on how embarrassed or upset you are with the misbehaviour, the focus is on how your child will develop good values and habits.

Biblical discipline is not about having your way.

During the formative years, are dependent on you for life and direction. They need to learn trustful obedience. As a child grows older, he begins to gain maturity. His mental, spiritual, social, and financial capacities get stronger. He must then gain the freedom to make decisions and to act independently. When it is about right or wrong, as parents you may intervene. But don’t discipline just because your advice was not followed. Don’t say, “I gave you this car and I’ll take it back if you don’t do what I say.” Remember, alternative actions are not necessarily wrong. Let children make poor choices and learn on their own.

Biblical Discipline is about clarity.

Biblical discipline does not hurt the innocent. It corrects the erring. Parents must establish a clear offence. Sometimes, we mistakenly discipline our child for an offence that somebody else committed.

Biblical discipline does not punish the unaware or ignorant. Children need to have a clear understanding of the offence. Take time to explain. Don’t lazily resort to “Just because I said so. statements.

Biblical discipline deals with current offences. It does not rehash old ones. Physical or verbal discipline should be appropriate and sufficient for the offence presently committed. Don’t perform a monologue or nag your child over past wrongdoings.

Correction and rebuke is a blessing. Discipline can be beautiful if you do it right.

Scriptures say, “Blessed is the one whom reproves; therefore despise not the discipline of the Almighty. For he wounds, but he binds up; he shatters, but his hands heal.” When God disciplines us, He blesses us with growth. When the discipline causes and wounding, God Himself brings healing. Let us learn from His example and start disciplining rightly. May we never leave a child broken and shattered. May we actively bring healing and growth. And may we always assure them of our unconditional love.


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By Ana Menez

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4 replies on “Let’s Talk About “Biblical” Discipline”

Great post. We spanked three out of four of our children, and even then only as much as absolutely necessary – a last resort. One of our children was so sensitive that if we simply looked at her sternly she would melt. Discipline is important and so is using discipline according to the bent of your child. Good thoughts.

Discipline should always be for the purpose of raising a happy, well-behaved child who will be a happy, productive, cooperative adult member of society. It should never be simply an infliction of pain for not obeying arbitrary rules. It should never be for the purpose of controlling what the child thinks or believes. And, the punishment should be measured: the punishment should fit the “crime”. No parent should ever inflict a punishment that has no end (eternal). That is immoral.

Sometimes a spanking is needed when “talking” gets you nowhere.
If the eye lusts, better to pluck it out than to have your whole body in hellfire…lol.. or something of that nature.
Discipline is what society lacks of children today. Knowing in their minds
“I better not do that again, or my bottom is guna hurt…sheeesh. ”
Then they wont do it again.
Punishment is for a crime. Punishment is for those who lack Discipline.
So dont Beat ur children. Theres a difference betwwen spankings and beatings.
God Bless!

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